Dating is an exciting journey, but it can come with extra challenges when you are managing a diagnosis. One of the biggest questions is how and when to disclose it.


Getting to know someone on a romantic level comes with a lot to think about. But if you’re anxious, depressed, manic or preoccupied with all the things that could go wrong, it becomes significantly harder.


The level of intimacy you are looking for in a partner can help you understand your feelings on what personal information you share with them. If your relationship is casual with clear boundaries set between you both, it is generally accepted to keep personal information, like your diagnosis, to yourself. If the relationship evolves or if you feel it is relevant to share, it is important to approach the conversation thoughtfully.


Discussing your diagnosis with anyone can feel vulnerable—especially with someone you’re intimate with but it can also help to build a deeper sense of trust and connection.
Sharing this part of yourself can feel vulnerable, but it also offers an opportunity to build deeper trust and connection. To ensure you feel comfortable and the conversation is productive, approaching the topic of your diagnosis with thoughtfulness and preparation is key.


Here are a few tips to help you navigate the conversation:
Understand Your Feelings: Before sharing with someone else, take time to reflect on your diagnosis. Feeling confident and accepting of it yourself can make the conversation easier.
Pick the Right Moment: Timing is key. Disclosing too early might feel overwhelming, but waiting too long could strain trust. Many people choose to share once there’s a foundation of mutual respect and connection.
Be Clear and Honest: When the time feels right, keep the conversation straightforward. Share how your diagnosis affects you, what it means in your day-to-day life, and anything your partner might need to know. Focus on Their Reaction: A kind and empathetic response can strengthen your bond, while a dismissive reaction might reveal a lack of compatibility. Remember, the right person will want to understand and support you.
Stay True to Yourself: Your diagnosis is part of your story, but it doesn’t define who you are. A meaningful relationship will embrace all aspects of you, challenges included.


Disclosing your diagnosis can feel vulnerable, but it’s also an opportunity to build trust and deepen your connection. The right person will see your strength and value your openness.

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