Writer:
I am writing to you as I came to Prague because of my partner who is Czech and with whom we are currently in the process of divorce. I am from a third-world country and have strong connections with my family who are far away from me now and I built all my life around my partner. Basically, I was a ”stay at home wife”, and I did some online work, but he was the one who was feeding our family. We have both agreed (long story short) to separate our ways on mutual agreement but now I am terrified if I will have no one in Prague. I have just one friend here and as I work from home for another country, I do not know many people here who can potentially be my colleagues. I am scared that I won’t be able to find myself in this city and start all over again. Like I have some block in me that I am afraid to go out and afraid to interact with other people. I am aware that my divorce was the best solution but now I am wondering was it really that good of a choice if I will stay lonely.
Can you advise me what to do?

Kate:
Dear Writer, thank you for reaching out to us.

Going through a divorce, especially in a foreign country, is not easy. It is natural to feel overwhelmed and anxious about the uncertain future, especially if you seem to have limited social connections here in Prague.

It is important to acknowledge and process your emotions. Divorce can often be associated with feelings of sadness, fear and uncertainty. Allow yourself time to grieve. It is okay to feel vulnerable during this difficult time. Mental health professional support can be an option to provide you with a safe space where you can express your emotions and develop some coping strategies.

Even the one friend you have in Prague is a positive step forward in building a support network. Consider online communities and professional networks. There are people working from home too. Online communities can help you to expand your social circle and connect with like-minded people in Prague. This can reduce feelings of isolation.

Try to find new hobbies or interests when you feel ready. This way you could meet new people and find your new self, outside of your previous relationship. You can discover your new passions, which can help to increase your confidence along with extending your social circle.

Currently, you are afraid of interacting with people outside. Perhaps in the future consider exploring new job opportunities that could be hybrid (working from home and a few days in the office). Even taking small steps is a sign of strength. 

Be compassionate with yourself. Healing and starting over can take some time. In a situation like yours, it is normal to feel confused and uncertain about the future. Focusing on the new possibilities ahead and taking them as an opportunity for self-discovery and personal growth would be a great strategy to consider. Try to surround yourself with supportive individuals who can empower you even if it only happens online for the time being.

I wish you the best in navigating this transition with resilience and emerging stronger than ever before. Should you need more advice and help, do not hesitate to book an appointment with our experienced mental health counsellors.

Good luck!